needtolearn
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As the wife I have tried several different town jobs to help make ends meet on the place. The problem I find is that after I pay for someone to watch our child and drive back and forth I haven't made that big a dent in the family budget. I was working an 8 hour job and making about 1100 bucks a month. But after taxes, day care, maintenance on my vehicle, and fuel I was only contributing about 200 bucks.
Some of you may be thinking "ouch, she had to be mismanaging something", but if you actually take a look at your finanaces, make sure what you or your wife is doing is really making a difference. Maybe she has great benefits that make it worth it. Maybe you have a grandma who is able and willing to help out. Maybe your kids are school age so daycare isn't needed. Any way you look at it, make sure it really helping, and here's why.
Though I understand the reasoning behind a husband wanting his wife to work a town job, what makes him think that this makes her happy? We as families of the rancher or cowboy are supposed to understand the tight times are ok because doing what our man is doing, though not always financially secure, is what he loves.
Do the men ever consider that they except their women to devote their lives to doing something that ISN"T their dream for the sake of him? Some women love their town jobs, but I would have to say that most I know ache to work alongside their husband, not leave every day to be stuck in an office that the husband would throw a hissy fit about if he had to do the same.
Men, take a sec to wrap your arms around the woman you love, and give her you word you'll do your best to remember that without her sacrificing her dreams, you wouldn't have yours.
We do what we do, ladies, cause our dream of ranching is wrapped up in the man we love. The sacrifice of doing the thing we'd rather not is our act of love. But it wouldn't hurt to sit down as a couple now and then and make sure that the effort we put out doing the town job is really having the needed effect of keeping us in the dream life. Let's make sure we utilize the resources of a town job to full effect. It will help us hold our heads up when the burden gets heavy.
Some of you may be thinking "ouch, she had to be mismanaging something", but if you actually take a look at your finanaces, make sure what you or your wife is doing is really making a difference. Maybe she has great benefits that make it worth it. Maybe you have a grandma who is able and willing to help out. Maybe your kids are school age so daycare isn't needed. Any way you look at it, make sure it really helping, and here's why.
Though I understand the reasoning behind a husband wanting his wife to work a town job, what makes him think that this makes her happy? We as families of the rancher or cowboy are supposed to understand the tight times are ok because doing what our man is doing, though not always financially secure, is what he loves.
Do the men ever consider that they except their women to devote their lives to doing something that ISN"T their dream for the sake of him? Some women love their town jobs, but I would have to say that most I know ache to work alongside their husband, not leave every day to be stuck in an office that the husband would throw a hissy fit about if he had to do the same.
Men, take a sec to wrap your arms around the woman you love, and give her you word you'll do your best to remember that without her sacrificing her dreams, you wouldn't have yours.
We do what we do, ladies, cause our dream of ranching is wrapped up in the man we love. The sacrifice of doing the thing we'd rather not is our act of love. But it wouldn't hurt to sit down as a couple now and then and make sure that the effort we put out doing the town job is really having the needed effect of keeping us in the dream life. Let's make sure we utilize the resources of a town job to full effect. It will help us hold our heads up when the burden gets heavy.